- 7:00pm - feeding
- 8:00pm - bath; followed by diapering, baby oil, pjs, swaddling, lullaby
We finally realized that we weren't waiting long enough. She needed to have "limp limb" before we put her in her crib.
- Sway, walk, rock, nurse her to sleep until pacifier falls out.
- Her eyes are close completely, but her eyelids continue to flutter and her breathing is still irregular.
- Her hands and limbs are flexed or will jerk if we try to move them, and she will startle, twitch, and show fleeting smiles, called "sleep grins."
- She continues a flutter-like sucking even without the pacifier (so we hope - sometimes it being gone is enough to wake her up).
- Continue this ritual about twenty more minutes!!!!
- Grimaces and twitches stop; her breathing becomes more regular and shallow; her muscles completely relax.
- Her fisted hands unfold and her arms and limbs dangle weightlessly. This is what Dr. Sears calls - the "limp-limb" sign of deep sleep.
The trouble became the waiting for 20 minutes! Walking her to get her through the first two phases is back breaking and then to have to stay upright for 20 more minutes became too difficult. We quickly forgot about waiting the 20 minutes and have moved onto new routines knowing that we can't let her get dependent on that in the long run
...PLUS she always wakes between this cycle and the one that will start a short 45 minutes later. And we just hope a pacifier will knock her back into a state of comfort and security and that she will quickly slip into the next cycle and stay asleep for the night.
Sound cyclical? I'm sitting her wondering if this is the last cycle right now as I hear her cry while Alan tries to soothe her between cycles.